When I was browsing Tieba recently, I saw a post in which a netizen asked: Should a relationship that has been strongly opposed by parents continue? There are many netizens expressing their thoughts below, and many of them insist on making their own decisions about their own feelings. This not only makes me think of a question: Why do love that are blocked love each other more? Today we are also focusing on this theme Let’s chat.
Speaking of thwarted love, this reminds me of the classic tragedy "Romeo and Juliet".
The story goes like this: Romeo and Juliet love each other, but because their families have been enemies for generations, they are strongly opposed by both families. However, family obstruction did not make them break up, but made them fall in love deeper until they died for love...
However, psychologists interfered with the love relationship between the two parties by this kind of external force, but instead caused the two people to fall in love even more deeply. The phenomenon of individuals falling in love more deeply is called the “Romeo and Juliet effect.”
Why does this phenomenon occur? Psychologists believe that there are three reasons:
1. Psychological Reverse Theory
When people are forced to rent out something When making a choice, there will be a high degree of resistance to the choice, and this mentality will prompt people to make the opposite choice and increase their liking for the object of their choice.
In the future, if your child likes someone he shouldn’t like, you must be careful when prohibiting the two of them from interacting with each other. Don’t forcibly prohibit them. Take “
"High-pressure policy", but you must be persuasive, sensible, and emotional. Never directly criticize, reprimand, beat or even humiliate them in front of everyone. This can easily produce a "Romeo and Juliet" effect, which will make your The child thought he had met true love
2. We all hope to control our own destiny
When we face a choice, if the choice is in line with our wishes and what we want to choose, we will like the person we choose; if the choice is forced, we will become less fond of the person we choose.
If you are forced to accept a blind date arranged by your parents, is it not so easy for you to have a good impression of the blind date?
3. The harder things are to get, the more important they are to people. The more attractive it is, the value of something that is easy to obtain or has already been obtained is often ignored by people; while the more difficult it is to obtain, the higher the status of the scarce thing in people's minds. , in our opinion, it is always more valuable, while things that are everywhere in the street are of lower value.
So this explains why two people fall more in love with each other the more they hinder their relationship. , so now I want to ask you, if it were you, how would you choose?