When I was chatting with the girl I liked, I finally came up with a topic, but in the end the topic ended after only a few words. In fact, this dilemma can be resolved with some small skills. The editor below will teach you a few tips to avoid becoming the topic terminator.
1. Indicate your status first
Chatting is an act of exchanging information between the two parties in the chat, rather than a single The act of obtaining information. When chatting with a girl, you must learn to express your status first and then ask the girl reciprocal questions.
When chatting with a girl, we can first provide her with some of your information appropriately, so that when she provides her information again, she will feel more balanced and be more willing to chat with you.
You can talk about your embarrassing things today, "I sent my silly emoticon to the wrong group today, it's really a social disaster", "I wore my clothes inside out today, and when I walked to the company, I Only then did I realize that the social death effect was directly maxed out."
At this time, we only need to give a little hint, and it is very likely that she will also share some of her embarrassing things with you, and the non-chatting atmosphere will be created.
2. Talk about things that girls are good at
Talking about things that girls are good at seems to be what we call chatting The initiative was given away, but in fact we firmly held the initiative in chatting from the beginning.
During this process, we only need to express our admiration in the girls’ words. Which girl can remain unmoved by this sugar-coated bombardment.
For example, chat with her about topics related to the constellation. Nine out of ten girls like to study this constellation. We just need to lean towards the constellation intentionally or unintentionally.
We can roughly describe our own personality and then say suggestively, "It is said that personality is related to zodiac signs, but I don't know if it is true."
If a girl says, "Do you have a certain zodiac sign?", then all we need to do next is "Wow, you are very accurate" or "Hahaha, it is a zodiac sign that is very similar to this zodiac sign." Gradually the topic was brought to the zodiac, and her chatterbox opened up.
Of course, if she is not good at zodiac signs, we can also change the topic to cooking, pets, photography, etc. There will always be one she is better at.
3. Take the initiative to end the chat at the right time
Taking the initiative to end the chat at the right time can be effective to keep it fresh.
As the saying goes, "Too much glue won't stick, and too much talking won't make it sweet." The same goes for chatting. Don't talk too long.
If our words can’t attract the other person’s attention, then no matter how many words we type, it will be seen as a monster in the other person’s eyes.
On the one hand, talking too much can easily lead to the loss of novelty, because we cannot talk about the same topics that we just talked about today tomorrow.
Then every day we can only talk about irrelevant questions such as "Have you eaten?" "Are you late for work?" "Are you taking the subway to work?"
Therefore, when we are in a pleasant chat situation but have almost no words to talk about, for example, when a girl sends you a lot of cute emoticons, we can use the guise of "I just received a message." , I may need to take care of some work, I’m so miserable!" and took the initiative to end the chat.
Although the atmosphere is good, don’t be greedy.
Ending the chat at this time can make a girl feel like she still has something to say, and she may even wonder if you are chatting with other girls. The girl’s appetite will be whetted, and she may even Will take the initiative to chat with you.
On the other hand, chatting too much can easily lead to awkward chatting. Seeing that the atmosphere of the chat is not right, we can end the chat after saying a few words to each other. Don’t girls say um, you say oh. , then only GG is waiting for us!
Taking the initiative to end the chat at this time can also reduce the psychological burden on both parties. As long as I run fast enough, embarrassment will not catch up with me. I will think about it next time. After the topic, it’s not too late to talk again.
