Regarding going to work, of course everyone hopes to be able to earn income while lying at home, but reality is not so ideal. Everyone should have their own job. So what happens if your girlfriend says she doesn’t want to go to work? Many people may say, I will support you. Although this sentence seems heartwarming, it is actually unrealistic. Your girlfriend will not really quit her job and rely on you to support her. What should I do if my girlfriend says she doesn’t want to go to work?
1. If you are really tired, take a rest for a while
In fact, when you are tired or exhausted at work, it is normal for your girlfriend to have thoughts of not wanting to go to work. At this time, it is She said, "If you are really tired, just rest for a while." But it also depends on how long she wants to cultivate. If it is just a period of work exhaustion, it is acceptable and supportive to recuperate for a period of time and then start over again later.
If you hope to never work again, you must have plans for the future, such as getting married, having children, and raising children. , it is best to stick to doing certain things, such as a certain hobby or baking, so that you can have a skill to support yourself in the future even if you really don’t work anymore. Tell her sincerely that working has more advantages than disadvantages for women, and let her understand it clearly and not give up easily.
2. Are you unhappy at work?
In fact, many times when a girlfriend says she doesn’t want to go to work, it may be because she has something unhappy at work, so the focus at this time is to solve her problem. Be unhappy instead of asking her to quit! Because there are many hidden dangers in resigning, the biggest problem is not that your income will decrease, but that your girlfriend's sense of self-worth will decrease. Over time, her self-esteem and self-confidence will decrease, which is not a long-term solution.
If you give her some personal growth, many things will be solved when her personality grows.
If you say resign and I will support you, your girlfriend will probably be very happy. But if she thinks about it seriously and rationally, she won't let you support her without doing any work. If you say you want to raise her and she really lets you care for her without any worries... then there will be a lot of contradictions. One is that your girlfriend has no sense of worth, and the other is that your girlfriend will not feel safe if she is always dependent on you to support her. It is better to earn money and spend it on your own. So if I raise you, just give it a try and listen. The reality is far from that simple.
3. It’s okay if you don’t want to go to work. Have you planned your future life?
In fact, it’s not okay if your girlfriend doesn’t want to go to work. It’s okay if she asks you to support her, but the key is Has she planned her future life? For example, after marriage, you are responsible for making money to support the family, so she cannot be idle. It is always a minimum to take care of all the housework, right? Laundry, cooking, sweeping and mopping are of course essential. Household oil, salt, sauce, vinegar, rice soap, laundry detergent, dishwashing liquid, tea snacks, garbage bag, toilet cleaner, oil remover, rag, floor cleaner.......Is this really the life she wants?
In fact, in most cases, when a girlfriend says she doesn’t want to go to work, it’s just a talk, even if she really quits her job and takes a break. , she will also find a way to find a job again. After all, doing nothing is not a long-term solution.
