When a girlfriend and mother-in-law quarrel, as boyfriends or husbands, we should play the role of mediators to help both parties calm down their emotions and resolve conflicts. Here are some methods and suggestions that can help us both calm down.
1. Listen to both sides’ perspectives
First of all, we need to listen to both sides’ viewpoints and try to understand their feelings. Don’t rush to express your opinion or take sides, but listen patiently to what they have to say. This can make both parties feel respected and cared for, and can help relieve tensions.
2. Stay calm and objective
When dealing with arguments, we must remain calm and objective. Don't get into an emotional state and don't point fingers or criticize either party. Instead, we should analyze the problem with a neutral attitude and propose reasonable solutions. This will avoid exacerbating the argument and make both parties more receptive to our suggestions.
3. Find common ground and consensus
In quarrels, there are often some common points or consensus, and we can use these common points to resolve conflicts. By guiding both parties to reminisce about good moments or shared experiences, you can help them reconnect and trust each other. At the same time, we can also remind them that they are fighting for each other's happiness, which can stimulate their motivation to seek compromise and solve problems.
4. Provide neutral advice
As mediators, we should provide neutral advice and try to avoid taking sides. We can propose some reasonable solutions based on the views and needs of both parties and help them find a balance point. At the same time, we must also encourage both parties to proactively communicate and express their needs in order to better solve problems.
5. Establish good communication channels
When dealing with quarrels, it is very important to establish good communication channels . We can encourage both parties to sit down and talk face to face and ensure they have enough time and space to express their thoughts and feelings. At the same time, we also remind them to listen to each other’s perspectives and respect each other’s opinions. Through good communication, both parties can better understand each other and find solutions to problems.
6. Seek professional help
If the quarrel cannot be effectively resolved, or the emotions are very intense, we can consider seeking professional help. A counselor or psychologist can provide neutral perspective and advice and help both parties better handle conflicts. They have rich experience and professional knowledge and can provide us with some constructive solutions.
When a girlfriend and mother-in-law have a quarrel, we should play the role of mediator to help both parties calm down their emotions and resolve conflicts. By listening, staying calm and objectiveBy finding common ground and consensus, providing neutral advice, establishing good communication channels, and seeking professional help, we can effectively appease the emotions of both parties and promote the establishment of a harmonious relationship.
