Many men and women use inappropriate personalities as an excuse for breaking up or rejecting each other, but few people can truly understand that their personalities are unreasonable, and they don’t know whether two people with inconsistent personalities really cannot be together. Let’s analyze for you what are the symptoms of personality incompatibility between two people? The fact that the two people don't get along is just an excuse.
1. Signs of personality incompatibility
1. Dislike each other. Two parties with different personalities can neither understand nor appreciate each other. If you are artistic, you will be criticized for being arrogant. Two people care more about themselves than each other's feelings. After a quarrel, they only care about their own face and do not want to bow their heads, without thinking about whether they have really hurt the other person.
2. A chicken talks to a duck. For example, when looking at problems, men pay more attention to trends and future orientation, such as which industries have more prospects. Women, on the other hand, pay more attention to details and reality orientation, such as quality of life. Two people discussing issues are simply not on the same channel.
For example:
Let's go eat chicken - whatever chicken we eat, idiots will play with the feathers;
Let's go study - learn whatever we want , if your brain is not good enough, stop pretending;
Let’s go exercise - whatever exercise you want, you are as skinny as a dog;
This is probably a personality incompatibility...
3. No desire to communicate. Every minute and second we spend together is painful and disgusting. We don't even talk to each other for more than half a sentence. I feel disgusted when I think of the other person. I don't want to have any more interactions with the other person, and I don't want to say another word.
4. Not appreciating differences and only looking forward to similarities is the so-called "personality incompatibility". Love is not a process of getting along, not a process of compromise and concession, not a process of mutual transformation, but a process of co-creation. It is two different people who jointly find a larger space that can accommodate both parties, tolerate each other but are independent of each other.
2. Can two people be together if they have different personalities?
In fact, it doesn’t matter whether two people have compatible personalities or not. All personality differences are excuses. What’s more important in a relationship is that they can be together. You cannot accept and change things for the sake of the other person. For two people to come together is a process of mutual change. There will be times when teeth bite lips, and couples will quarrel for many years. The most important thing between lovers is running in.
For example, one partner is very timid and is afraid of ghosts and heights, while the other partner is very courageous and likes roller coasters and haunted houses. These situations are very common. Although they cannot experience the excitement together, they can go ride the merry-go-round together. Not being able to experience exciting projects together is indeed a shortcoming, but there will always be other surprises to make up for it.
Therefore, to be precise, there is no sign of incompatibility between two people, there are only individuals who are not suitable for each other. If two people are not suitable , definitely not justIt is as simple as inappropriate personality. There must be many factors, but we ignore them. We just want to put the blame for bad relationships and poor management on personality differences, because in this case, personality incompatibility seems to be natural, no one is wrong, and there is nothing we can do about it. The essence is to avoid thinking.
