As the saying goes: A kind word warms you for three winters, but a bad word hurts you for six months. Although sometimes you don't mean what you say, your unintentional remarks may also hurt the other person. Especially in love and marriage, these three most hurtful words should never be said easily.
1. "Look at the other person, then look at you"
In this case, every couple may Everyone will say that you may think this is just an unintentional sentence without much thinking, but you don't know how much this sentence hurts your lover.
In fact, words like this are a kind of comparison, and comparison is a type of violent communication.
"Let Yourself Live a Miserable Life" writes: If you really want to live a miserable life, compare yourself with others.
When we were young, we hated it when our parents compared you with other people’s children. When you grow up, you compare your lover with others.
In fact, this kind of comparison itself is meaningless. It is unfair to compare the shortcomings of your lover with the advantages of others. We all have flaws and no one is perfect in this world.
Life is not about comparing with others, but comparing with your past self. As long as you are better now than before, it is a kind of progress.
A happy marriage knows how to discover each other’s strengths and tolerate each other. Even if you have shortcomings, I will still choose you firmly.
2. "If it weren't for the children, I would have divorced you long ago"
It is normal for couples to quarrel. , sometimes quarreling can make two people become better and solve problems better.
If communication is not good, it may affect the relationship between husband and wife. When people are disappointed and angry, they will speak arbitrarily and say things that they would never even think of.
"If it weren't for the children, I would have divorced you long ago." This sentence may be an angry word said when you are angry. There is not much emotion and thinking in it, but this sentence Words may be like a knife cutting into the other person's heart.
There are some words that couples should never say, because if you say them, they will be like a time bomb that will destroy your life at any time.
There is a saying in "The Little Prince": Words are the source of misunderstanding.
We always feel that this is just a casual remark that others will not care about, but if we say it too much, others will really take it seriously.
No matter how angry a couple is, they should never talk about divorce, let alone use their children to blackmail and accuse each other.
It is normal for couples to quarrel, but you must remember to be measured and always remember that the other person is your lover, not your enemy.
3. “You don’t understand even if I tell you”
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Others want to get involved in your life, want to have more topics with you, and want to solve your worries. But when others ask you kindly, all they get is an impatient "You know." "What?".
In the end, I don't care about your affairs, and you don't care about my troubles. We are obviously a couple but we live like two strangers, and no one cares about the other.
Some people like to carry the burden on themselves and don’t want their families to worry, but the meaning of family is to be able to face ups and downs together and overcome difficulties together.
A good marriage should be a discussion between two people and each other. Respect and face everything in life together.
When couples quarrel, there is no real winner, only the eternal loser, losing each other's feelings, and even the family. Everyone has their own temper, and when they can't stand each other, they will vent their emotions, take some things lightly, expect less, be more tolerant, and life may be more comfortable since we are together. .
I hope someone will accompany you to experience the trivial life of daily necessities, and someone will accompany you to see the flames and prosperity of the world.
