If you feel unhappy and depressed in your marriage for a long time, some people may say, divorce immediately! In fact, divorce is not a good choice. Many marital problems can be changed through one's own efforts. What should we do if the joy of marriage becomes less and less? Let’s take a look!
1. Keep a normal mind about marriage, lower expectations, and make contented people happy
One possible reason why you think your marriage is not happy is that you have great expectations for your marriage and think your marriage is perfect. But once you enter the siege and face firewood, rice, oil, salt, sauce, vinegar and tea together, you will find that marriage is not as simple as you imagined, and it is very different from your expectations, so you are very disappointed.
If a person enters a marriage, he is fully mentally prepared for the imperfections of marriage and can fully realize that the real marriage life cannot be exactly what you expected, so his expectations for marriage will not be so high. , your attitude towards your partner's marriage is also different.
When you have a normal heart towards marriage and your significant other, you will find that you will feel happier and feel happy and satisfied every day. You will feel happy in your marriage, because "he who is content is always happy."
So when you feel that your marriage is not happy and you are depressed, you should lower your expectations for marriage and have a normal mind towards marriage.
2. When there is a problem in your marriage, look for the cause within yourself and don’t have a victim mentality
When there is a problem in your marriage, don’t take all the responsibility. They blame it on others and look for reasons in themselves to feel unhappy. The reason for chronic depression may be that they have a victim mentality.
The victim's mentality in marriage is that the lack of happiness is the other person's responsibility, so they blame the other person and think it is their fault.
For example, some people always compare their significant other with others and feel that if they find another person to live with; for example, some people complain that some people complain that their partner is wrong, this is not good, and a life without happiness belongs to him. Injuries etc. These are all about putting yourself in the position of the weak or the victim. This is the victim mentality.
Any complaint, whether verbal or silent, about the diminishing joy of married life is a victim mentality.
If you have a victim mentality in marriage, you will see that any behavior of the other party is negative, your mind will enter a dead end, and your heart will become more and more painful and unhappy. balance. How can you feel happy in your marriage?
When you feel depressed, you have to reflect on what you have done for this marriage. What did you pay for each other? What questions do you have? Instead of putting all the responsibility on the other party and treating yourself as a weak person.
NoCompare your partner to others. As the saying goes, "popularity is better than popularity. There is no comparison between your life and others, which will only make you feel more uncomfortable and make your marriage unhappy.
