When I was single, I was always troubled by how to get out of singles. I thought that everything would be fine once I got out of singles. But when I got a girlfriend, I started to worry about how to make her happy again. Because of the differences in thinking between men and women, many boys always make her angry without paying attention when getting along with their girlfriends. How should they be coaxed in this situation?
In fact, if you have not done anything beyond the bottom line such as cheating and violence, under normal circumstances, your girlfriend is not "angry", but angry. Therefore, in many cases, you don’t need to do anything, but only a few words can be coaxed.
However, many boys tend to say the wrong things when their girlfriends are angry and walk into minefields. For example, when their girlfriends buy something on Taobao, they feel that they have suffered a loss and want to talk, but they He will always reply with the following four sentences expressionlessly:
"Oh, that's it"
"It's okay, it's okay, as for that, it's just a small amount of money"
"I told you that it would be cheaper to buy on that day. If it were me, I would have to wait a few more days."
"It's your fault. Why are you angry?"< /p>
Maybe your girlfriend did something wrong, but your reply is like dancing in a minefield - any one of these four sentences will step on the other person's anger.
"Oh, that's it" - this is indifference to the other person's situation
When a girl talks to you, no matter whether you care about this matter or not, you should at least You must have a listening attitude, because talking is a very important thing for girls.
No matter how small the matter is, when she talks to you, she treats it as a very important matter and she is very eager to communicate with you.
At this time, if you show that you are careless or don’t care about this matter at all, it will add fuel to the fire. At that moment, your girlfriend will feel that the whole world is full of her. Malice.
"It's okay, as for that, it's just a small amount of money" - weakening the other party's experience
Yes , I admit that many times what girls talk to their boyfriends seems boring to boys, and they are all trivial things, but you have to try to understand this person, and at least don't show a contemptuous tone or attitude.
Maybe you think it’s just a discount of a few hundred dollars, but to her, it seems that she has wasted her hard-earned salary, that she was deceived, or that she may even be upset about why she didn’t Chang Xin... When others are in trouble and pain, showing an attitude of "standing and talking without back pain" is very deserving of a beating.
It’s hard to sayListen: I usually receive consultations and often encounter people who are troubled by trivial matters, but can I show disdain? Of course not - it is precisely because they can’t think about it that they come to me to talk to me. If they want to think about it, , they wouldn't be so troubled anymore.
"I told you it would be cheaper to buy on that day, but if it were me, I would have to wait a few more days" - I am always right
If the attitude shown in the previous sentence is just that you deserve to be beaten, then this one is simply unjust: when others are disappointed and upset because of some things, jump out and tell the other person that you are a fool.
You may think, "I'm right." Well, let me ask you a question: When you usually play games, you get eaten by the sheets, and someone stands next to you and keeps saying, "You "Why do you need magic resistance?" "Why don't you show enthusiasm?" "Here? Why are you grabbing the resources in the middle?"....Are you annoyed?
Things have happened, mistakes have been made, The last thing you need is a godly person standing by and telling you what to do.
"It's your fault in the first place, why are you so angry?" - Erwuzi's words
That’s right, not speaking up for the other person when he or she is angry, or even standing on the opposite side of the other person, is an emotional betrayal. At work, you know that when you disagree with your boss, you should calm down and speak slowly. Why do you have to rush to educate the other person out of anger when you are in love?
In fact, your girlfriend knows that she is wrong. I believe that even if you can't figure it out now, you can figure it out later - do you really have to tell her that you are wrong when she is at her most emotional?
You know, a girl is a creature that values [feeling] very much in relationships. If you make her [feel] that you and her are not of the same mind, then brother, you are in trouble.
Don’t say that girls are unreasonable. When you usually play games, don’t you show an angry look to your teammates as if you “don’t let them know what you’re doing”?
So how to deal with this problem is actually very simple: just say the above four sentences completely in reverse.
"What's wrong, dear, I feel like you've been in a bad mood. Who messed with you?" - Show care and concern in a timely manner;
"Oh my god, it's so excessive. Isn’t this a word game? It’s really unscrupulous.”——Identify her situation and psychology, and empathize with her;
“This is so annoying, I would be angry if it were me. , how can anyone do business like this?" - tell the other party that I am the same as you, and I will act the same as you when encountering such a thing;
"I support you, let's not buy anything from their house anymore, be good" - express spiritual support and understanding;
You said: But She did something wrong in the first place. Even though I said so, the deal still can't be cancelled.
Silly boy, do you think she is really trying to solve the problem by complaining to you? Trust me, as long as she does. After venting my emotions and being comforted by you, the matter will be over - 95% of the girls' talk is just to find recognition and empathy with you, not to solve the problem at all.
Therefore, What you have to do is not to solve this problem at all, because it was her fault in the first place, and she will understand sooner or later.
What you have to do is to solve her emotions - you must not get angry at this time. Adding fuel to the fire, it was obviously a conflict between her and the merchant, but it turned into her losing her temper with you. Don't you think about the reason?
