I don’t know if you have had this experience. The closer you are to the people, the easier it is for you to lose your temper. You also know that this is wrong, but there is no way to control it. Even I was like this before. Later I found the reason and began to slowly change. Now I have never lost my temper with people close to me.
Today I saw some netizens asking this question, so I will share with you the method I have used. If you are worried about why you are more likely to lose your temper with people who are closer to you, Just follow me and take a look.
In my opinion, the reason why we lose our temper with people close to us is because we subconsciously know that even if we lose our temper, the other person will not They will blame me, scold me, and will not leave me, so they will behave like this.
But this kind of behavior will definitely bring harm to our feelings, so we need to learn to control our emotions so that we can better express our feelings to the other party!
1. Establish empathy with the other party
Considering the other party’s perspective is a necessary step in communication. We can first observe the other party’s expressions and reactions to understand their mood, and choose a communication mode that suits both parties. We should not take the other person’s understanding for granted and be grateful for their willingness to listen.
Similarly, when facing each other’s temper, understanding each other is also very effective.
2. Breathing method to calm anger
If you feel that your anger is almost unbearable, then You can try taking a deep breath for a few seconds until you feel that your anger has been eliminated from your body or returned to a controllable range. At the same time, think about whether you need to get angry in front of the other person and allow yourself to express your opinions calmly.
3. Self-confession to release defensiveness
Compared with maintaining a relationship through disputes, a friendly and reciprocal way of getting along will undoubtedly make the relationship go further.
Only by maintaining a sincere smile when expressing something or listening to the other party, and giving in when friction occurs, can the relationship remain equal. It is also helpful to express your true feelings to each other when necessary and let the other person feel that you care.
Love and understanding are not excuses for wanton harm. Face each other's insecurities and vulnerabilities, and use goodwill to maintain an equal relationship between the two parties!
