Question: I met a girl at work. After adding WeChat, I would take the initiative to chat with the girl every day. The two of us had many topics in common. I could ask her out. I confessed my feelings but she didn’t reply. This situation has lasted for more than a month. Sometimes we can chat all day long. When we are busy, we chat less, but we have basically never lost contact. So, does this girl like me or use me as a backup?
How to judge whether a girl likes you or treats you as a spare tire
Answer: Regardless of men or women, there is a very intuitive criterion for judging whether a girl likes you: look at the effort, look at the effort. Ask for something in return. Why do you say that? Let’s analyze it one by one for everyone:
1. It depends on the effort
If you are used as a spare tire Girl, you have given your sincerity to her, which is a high-cost thing, but what she pays is often low-cost to her, and a girl who likes you may really be considerate of your efforts. , Pay is relative, we need to look at this issue objectively.
Just like, you think a girl who prepares a birthday gift for you means she likes you, but whether the gift is thoughtful or not is the criterion to measure whether she really likes you. For example, you said that you like to collect stamps, and the girl carefully collected a stamp set for you. This is taking what you said to heart. But if it is a girl who treats you as a backup, let alone giving you gifts, she will not pay attention to your birthday at all, nor will she remember what you said.
Of course, if you insist that a girl who is willing to chat with you every day means she likes you; a girl who is willing to date you means she likes you, then there is nothing wrong with that. At least, she does not treat everyone the same way. That's the case, even if the other person doesn't like you that much and just uses you as a backup.
2. Look at the return you are asking for
Another point is to look at the return the other party is asking for. A person will not be nice to you for no reason. She must have benefits that she needs to get from you. What a girl who treats you as a backup wants in return is actually very simple. She just wants you to be nice to her and enjoy your surroundings. It makes her feel good, and she doesn't have to wait and pay for you. She can leave at any time if she wants to. And a girl who really likes you needs only one thing in return: sincerity for sincerity.
Looking at your description again, you and the girl only chatted more on a daily basis, and occasionally made appointments. You confessed your feelings but she didn’t reply. This state has lasted for a month. If it continues like this and your relationship has not progressed, then you may be a good backup.
No matter how you say it, relationships are something that you and I both agree on. To put it bluntly, one is willing to fight and the other is willing to suffer. So when you want to know how to judge the other person's treatment of youWhen it comes to a relationship, what position do you stand on? Do you want to gain a relationship that embodies your feelings, or do you want to use the other person's ability to make yourself more advantageous. The issue of personal stance is very important, it is related to the progress of your relationship with the other party.
