The push-pull technique in chat refers to creating linguistic contradictions, and then using a forward and backward method to resolve such contradictions and make the chat less boring. This kind of chatting method can arouse the other party's emotions very well, so how to do it specifically?
1. Language push and pull
1. Push first and then pull
Boys: I just saw a girl carrying the same bag as you! (Recommended)
Girl: Ah, where is it?
Boy: But this bag still suits you better, you He completely crushed her on his back, haha. (Pull)
Girl: You are a bit shy when you say that to others.
This kind of push and pull can create emotional tension, making emotions like a roller coaster, switching between dullness and excitement, creating a huge contrast in the girls' emotions, and achieving the ultimate goal of warming up the emotions of both parties.
2. Pull first and then push
Boys: You are so good-looking (pull)
Girl: That’s necessary
Boy: I said your clothes look good (recommended)
Girl: Ah! It’s so annoying
Pay attention here, The point of pushing and pulling is not to suppress a girl's self-esteem, but to constantly tease her emotions, make her a little angry, and then comfort her.
2. Personality push and pull
If you are a tough boy when chatting with girls, you You can suddenly act coquettish or cute, which can create a contrast in your personality. Girls may think you are "abnormal", and girls may also think you are a little cute. Or, you are usually used to obeying girls' requests, but you suddenly refuse a few times. One possibility is that the girl is angry and ignores you, but it is also possible that the girl is impressed by you. Therefore, personality pushing and pulling has advantages and disadvantages, and the risk is still a bit high. Boys can use it appropriately here.
Another thing to note here is that push and pull are different from suppression. Most of them are done in a joking way. Remember not to maliciously ridicule girls, because the most important thing in a relationship is mutual respect. If you don’t With this premise, everything is in vain. You must know that in the relationship between the sexes, if one party has been in a state of overinvestment, he will later show concern about gains and losses. So take the initiative to pull, and don't let the other party's efforts become passive. If you want to trap the person you like, you have to push and pull. If there is a push, there will be a pull. If there is a pull, there will be a push. If you have this balance right, you won't appear so passive.
When chasing girls, it is also very important to learn to flirt when chatting. Many boys either chat girls to death because they don’t know how to flirt.Then we became friends. The push and pull techniques for chatting and flirting taught by the editor today can just make up for this, so everyone must learn to use them appropriately.
