When chatting with a girl, she suddenly said that she was a little embarrassed. This is the time to test the boy’s emotional intelligence. So how should we reply to her in this situation to resolve the embarrassment?
First of all, we need to understand what the girl said. What does it mean to be a little embarrassed?
1. When girls say they are embarrassed, it may be because they have no topic to talk about.
In fact, not only boys, but many girls also don’t know how to chat or find topics. Because they are always chased by boys and do not need to think for themselves, whether they can continue chatting depends entirely on the boys. A boy who knows how to chat, a boy who can provide a lot of topics to talk about, can lead girls to keep chatting.
If you don’t have the ability to provide topics, and girls don’t know how to find topics, then girls will feel very embarrassed. Then girls may not give you a chance, but will talk to those who can provide topics. chatting with boys.
2. When girls say they are embarrassed, it may be because they are not chatting in the same channel
If they are not in the same channel, girls will It's easy to feel downright awkward.
For example, if you joke with a girl, but the joke goes too far and the girl feels uncomfortable, but you are completely unaware of it and you are still complacent, the girl will think that you have low emotional intelligence and can't chat, which is very embarrassing.
Another example is when a girl flirts with you and teases you, but you end up thinking that the girl is hurting you, and you get really angry. At this time, girls will also feel that you are too straight and too stubborn.
There are many similar situations. For example, when a girl is frustrated and sad, you try to reason with her. For example, when a girl says she is idle and bored, you persuade her to do something meaningful. Not only did you miss the opportunity for the girl to invite you, you missed the opportunity to get into the girl's heart, but you also did some very straight and boring things.
This is called not chatting in the same channel, you can’t answer the girl’s words, you can’t seize the opportunities given by the girl, and you can’t read the girls’ signals, just like a new driver who can’t understand the traffic lights. It just drives and crashes randomly.
So girls say that embarrassment is not a rejection, but a signal to you to remind you that you are not in the same channel now.
3. When girls say they are embarrassed, it may be because you are too restrained
A girl’s state comes from you, you If she is nervous, she will feel uncomfortable. If you are happy and relaxed, girls will be happy and relaxed too. If you restrain yourself, girls can clearly feel the tension and anxiety radiating from you.
At this time, girls will feel very embarrassed and uncomfortable. So you must convey a feeling of confidence and ease. Of course, you must achieve this state first.
If you want to feel confident and confident when getting along with girls, you must first be prepared.
ForWhy does a girl spend two hours dressing up before going out? Because her exquisite makeup and charming dress are her confidence, and a man's confidence comes from his ability to solve problems and lead the dating atmosphere.
When you have the ability to arrange dates well and make every conversation proceed happily, girls will feel safe and you will have confidence. As a man, your confidence should not come from your external conditions, such as being tall and handsome to be confident. Your confidence should come from your abilities, your experience, and your connotation. Therefore, men's self-improvement should be throughout.
Therefore, when a girl says she is embarrassed, you only need to look at her calmly, and even start to convey an ambiguous feeling. , then the tension in this atmosphere will turn into an ambiguous tension, which can actually make girls' hearts beat faster.
Then asked her: Is it embarrassing?
The girl said: Awkward.
At this time, all you have to do is reply to her calmly: It doesn’t matter, it will be over in a while.
Anything like this is just a trivial matter in your eyes. Pass on your natural aura and let girls know that you are not deliberately covering up the embarrassment, nor are you rushing to talk about some topics to fill it up.
With such a strong mentality, you can find 10,000 ways to resolve embarrassment. Because inner strength is far more useful than one or two tricks.
