When they reach a certain age and have not found a partner, many people will take the road of blind date. So if during a blind date, your date talks to you about your ex, how should we respond?
During the blind date , if the blind date takes the initiative to talk about ex-related topics, it means that she wants to understand your past emotional experiences. At this time, if you also have feelings for her, there is no problem in talking about your ex. Because since she can ask about your ex, one thing that is certain is that she is interested in you and does not rule out the possibility of liking you.
First of all, you have to make it clear that the girl opposite you is just your blind date, not your girlfriend. Faced with the taboo topic of "ex," if you talk about your ex in front of your current girlfriend, you will Tell the truth about your ex-girlfriend’s appearance, advantages, etc. When these words reach the ears of your current girlfriend who is rich in imagination, it becomes that since you have been thinking about her good things and still remember her so clearly, you must still have feelings for her. Emotionally, say it quickly: Do you not love me anymore? Do you still want to be with her? In your eyes, am I not as beautiful as her? Is her personality better than mine... Wait a minute The series asked back, is this just digging a hole for myself to jump into? But it is different in front of a blind date.
When boys talk about their ex, you should only talk about her advantages and how good you are to her, because only Only in this way can your blind date be involved. Of course, you should be moderate when talking about her advantages, because talking too much about your ex will only make your blind date think that you still have reservations about your ex.
Some boys will blame the woman for breaking up with their ex. In fact, this is the wrong approach. Your complaints may release your own emotions, but they will only make the girl think that you are a narrow-minded and ruthless person, and she will not have a good development if she ends up with you.
Therefore, when faced with a blind date taking the initiative to talk about ex-related topics, we can choose these two methods to deal with it:
1. Change the topic
When the other person brings up this topic, you don’t have to respond, let alone make comments. Don’t discuss this issue with the other person. Try to find other questions. Come discuss and avoid this topic.
2. Answer the wrong question
"We have just met, and you are so interested in my past? Let the past pass. I always believe that love is beautiful." Or "She's not bad, it's just that our personalities didn't get along, so we separated."
Such an answer answers the question directly without exposing your shortcomings. It may even make your date feel that you have built up a reputation for your ex, and you may still hold it in your heart.Bonus points for you.
Finally, since no one knows each other very well during a blind date, boys can do their homework in advance and find some suitable topics to talk about on a blind date to avoid falling into the embarrassing situation of having nothing to talk about.