One of the important reasons why many boys find it unpleasant to chat with girls is that they have no sense of propriety and offend girls or make girls unhappy without even realizing it. Let me share with you how to chat with a girl? Pay attention to the appropriateness of chatting.
1. Do not cross the line when chatting with girls
There is no need to say more if you do not cross the line. First, you must know the degree of relationship between you and the girl at this time. For example: If you just met as a normal friend and you want to do what her boyfriend should do - this is crossing the line. Not crossing the line means: do what you should do at any stage.
It’s true that you like her, but you are not her boyfriend. There is no need to control her too much. Everyone is free, and you should give her freedom. For example:
Remember to wear thicker clothes tomorrow, it will be cold - this is what her parents should do, or the weather forecast.
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If you two are ordinary people, you should maintain equal status and look at and deal with problems from the perspective of friends, so that you can develop further.
For example: a girl says "I have a stomachache and feel uncomfortable" - don't provide value at this time and don't be nice to her. It should be said, "Poor girl, then I will pinch my belly to accompany you in pain." This is to ridicule and sympathize with her from the perspective of a friend. The most important thing is not to pay, but to maintain this relatively equal relationship. Don't be unsolicited! She will like you because of your humor and equality, not because of your efforts!
2. Chatting with girls is prohibited Keep asking for things
When chatting with girls, don’t ask for them for no reason. Don’t keep asking and asking. Just try and stop. Asking questions is to open up the topic, not to keep asking. If you want to be a police station officer, feel free to investigate. For example: are you hungry, how are you today, can we be together, can I chase you. These words are all childish requests. Many things are based on feelings, and it is meaningless to ask them.
3. It is forbidden to give selflessly when chatting with girls
I mentioned asking before, but here I say giving. Giving is a good thing, but it is not necessarily a good thing when it comes to relationships between men and women. In a word: Don't be unreasonable and expose yourself. Because girls are not stupid when it comes to being attentive for no reason. It can be seen at a glance that you have feelings for her, and the sense of need is exposed here. When you let a girl know that you like her, she will be wary of you if she doesn't like you, and it will be difficult to pursue her again.
Why not let you keep giving, because of human nature. Human nature - will not cherish cheap things that have no value. You give of yourself selflessly, which makes you worthless. Man, it can't be rightIf you attach too much importance to worthless things, you will only ask for them more. Don't ask me, look at yourself as a very greedy person. Because this is vulgar human nature, there is no need to complain.
Therefore, proactively providing value once or twice is enough. Don’t be nice to a girl all the time. Being too nice will speed up her abandonment of you.
4. Don’t blindly invite girls when chatting with them
What is the purpose of chatting with girls—— It’s for hooking up. Because chatting every day online is also virtual, not real, okay! If we want to talk, let’s talk about real, high-quality love. Then when you ask for a date with a girl, pay attention to the timing.
Formula: Interested in you + time available = best time to invite.
First of all, she must be interested in you. Only then will you have more topics to talk about. .
Secondly, you need to have time for each other, so you can choose a time when both of you are free to get to know each other.
One of the purposes of coming out is to have fun, and the other is to get to know each other more truly. Another thing is - don’t invite again and again. After you make a request and the girl rejects you, just turn around and leave without looking back or mentioning it again. If you mention it once, the price will drop once.
You said: Let’s go out and play together this weekend.
She said: No, I have something to do over the weekend.
——Let’s just say: Okay, we’ll talk about it later when we have time.
Just end it and leave in a cool way. Don’t say: What about next week, next Monday, what about the weekend? These will only make you very horny, as if you have to ask out, but you don’t have to!
In short, chatting with a girl is based on comfort. As long as you feel comfortable chatting with her, the subsequent development will take its course. .
