Recently, I came across two quite interesting posts online. One was discussing what girls really mean when they say "no," and the other was about NBA player Barnes sharing his insights on pursuing girls. After reading these, I couldn't help but think about how we sometimes overcomplicate the matter of pursuing love.
First, let's talk about the topic of girls saying "no." Honestly, this is a timeless puzzle! As one netizen commented, "Boys, don't try to guess a girl's mind." Indeed, sometimes when a girl says "no," she really means it. For example, if she's on a diet and you offer her dessert, her refusal is absolutely sincere. But if it's a luxury item she's been longing for and she says "no," and you believe her, you might miss an opportunity to make her happy. This reminds me of a friend whose girlfriend said on her birthday, "It's okay, just spending time with you is enough." He took her at her word and only took her out for a meal, which left her feeling down for several days. This is a classic case of "saying one thing but meaning another"!
Therefore, I believe the key is to learn to observe and understand the other person. If you truly like someone, you should put in the effort to understand her preferences and habits. For instance, what style of clothes does she usually like, which brands does she favor, or what has she been interested in recently? This way, the gifts you give can truly touch her heart, rather than making her feel like you're just going through the motions.
Now, let"s discuss Barnes' advice. He said, "Want a girlfriend? Then go out more, visit malls, and if you see someone you like, ask for her number. Don't be shy." This sounds straightforward and blunt, but it actually makes a lot of sense. Many people complain about not being able to find a partner, but in reality, they don't even step out of their homes, staying indoors all day. How can they possibly meet someone they like? Barnes' advice, though direct, hits the nail on the head—you need to take the initiative to have a chance.
However, I think Barnes' method might be more suitable for extroverted individuals. If you're more introverted, directly asking for a phone number might not be your style. But that's okay, you can increase your visibility in other ways, such as joining interest groups, social events, or meeting new people through friends. The important thing is to step out of your comfort zone and create opportunities for yourself.
Speaking of which, I suddenly remembered a netizen"s comment: "Boys, don't try to guess a girl's mind." In fact, instead of spending time guessing what the other person is thinking, it's better to spend more time getting to know them and building a genuine connection. Love is not a guessing game but a sincere interaction between two people.
In conclusion, there's no fixed formula for pursuing love, but one thing is certain—you need to be brave and proactive. Whether it's giving gifts or initiating conversations, the key is to let the other person feel your sincerity and effort. Of course, it's also important to respect the other person's feelings and not to force anything. After all, true love is a mutual journey, not a one-sided effort.
Finally, I want to say that whether you're a boy or a girl, the most important thing on the path to pursuing love is to be true to yourself. Don't change your essence to please someone else, because only the real you can attract the right person for you. So, be brave, be confident, and go after your happiness!