When many boys are chatting with girls, they often encounter situations where girls take a long time to reply when they send a message. Today, the editor will take you to understand the reasons why girls always take a long time to reply when chatting with you and how to solve it. method.
1. The reason why she always takes a long time to reply when chatting with a girl
1. Can't find the core of the problem
When encountering a situation where a girl ignores them, many brothers will become very panicked and at a loss, so they start to search for various information on the Internet. For example, if the chat is cold, you will start looking for topics to talk to girls. If you can't take the girl's words, you will start looking for various chat cases and conversation techniques. Although the problem can be solved in a short time, you will encounter a similar situation again. , still don’t know what to do.
In fact, when chatting with girls, some skills and words can only play a supporting role. If you want to truly solve the problem of not being able to chat with girls, you need to establish a correct mindset for chatting with girls.
This thinking actually includes two aspects, one is mentality construction, and the other is emotional control.
2. Unbalanced mentality when chatting with girls
When it comes to the mentality of chatting with girls, first of all, I would like to tell you some common wrong love mentality,
1 ) Selling one's own value at a cheap price
Some people may think that this girl is so beautiful that she will have no shortage of suitors around her. However, my own conditions are not very good, so I try to be nice to girls and agree unconditionally. Any way a girl makes requests to impress the other person and win the other person's favor is actually wrong, because unilateral advances will only make you lose your sense of value. You must know that a high-value man will have many choices, so anxious Choosing a girl will make her feel that the value you pay is false or purposeful.
2) Chat with logical thinking
Have you eaten? Have you slept? What are you doing? I think Many straight men like to chat with girls in this way. In fact, this way of opening questions is unoriginal and is also the most annoying to girls, because it can easily turn into a question and answer conversation, and the topic will continue to be cut off. Too much emotional communication is more like an interrogation. You even say that when a girl complains to you about some things in life and work, you always think about how to help the girl solve the problem and reason with her. Although you are caring about the girl, you ignore the girl's feelings. Emotions and feelings make girls reluctant to continue chatting.
3. Lack of emotional experience when chatting with girls
When chatting with girls, it is crucial to grasp the emotions. Many brothers have learned some tricks to flirt with girls online. After the skill, I wanted to show it to the girl in the chat right away, but I ignored the girl's helpless and even disgusted mood, and she was still there.There he was talking to himself, expressing the feeling that no matter what, I would use up all my routines today.
You must know that chatting is a mutual process. The attitude and response of girls in this process are not exactly the same. There are emotions in it, so girls are changeable, but their routines are dead. Yes, we need to flexibly draw inferences from one example to catch the girl.
2. What should I do if she always takes a long time to reply when chatting with a girl?
1. Establish resonance with the girl
When we chat with girls, when we talk about emotions or inner activities, we should not just listen or give opinions all at once. These are bad behaviors. At this time, we should go Find resonance, let us integrate into the girl's emotions, put ourselves in her shoes, and think about what we would do at this time, so that the girl feels that you feel the same way as her, that you truly understand her, and are not a stubborn person.
2. Seize the initiative in chatting
The initiative in chatting is actually your relationship The sense of control in a relationship simply means how much you know about a girl. If you don’t know her well, your sense of control will naturally be low.
The process of chasing a girl is like there is a mountain between you and the girl, and there is a tunnel in the mountain. You have to go through this tunnel to get the girl. But you don't know how long this tunnel is. And you may encounter various problems and challenges in the process. So when you encounter trouble, you start to feel anxious.
Keep moving forward, you are afraid something will happen. When you look back, you are unwilling to do so. At this time, anxiety will arise spontaneously. Gradually you want to wait for the girl to give you a clear signal, and slowly you become the passive one in the process.
In fact, this is a manifestation of your inner self-confidence. Being possessive of girls will make you lose yourself and become worried about gains and losses, which is very unattractive. Remember, when you can’t control a girl’s thoughts During this relationship with you.
The only thing you can control is yourself. At this time, you should stop worrying about what other girls think.
You might as well calm down and think about what you should do to better attract girls.
