Recently, many of my girlfriends have been worried about finding a partner. As someone who has been through it, I’d like to share some of my insights. Actually, falling in love isn’t as difficult as it seems; the key is to master a few small techniques.
First, let’s address the most common concern: Should you pursue a guy you like? My advice is, you can take the initiative, but don’t be too direct. Take my friend Xiaomei, for example. She developed a crush on a programmer at her company and would find opportunities to chat with him about work every day. Gradually, they became close. Now, they’ve been together for over a year and their relationship is going strong. So, instead of rushing into a confession, it’s better to start as friends, engage in more conversations and interactions, and let him gradually get to know your good qualities.
Speaking of interactions, social media is a great tool. I remember when I first met my boyfriend, he often liked my travel photos. Later, he told me he was attracted by my positive attitude towards life. So, girls, make sure to post photos that showcase your life, letting guys see your upbeat side. However, don’t overdo it with selfies, as it can come off as too deliberate.
When it comes to ways to find a partner, there are plenty of options nowadays. My cousin met her husband through a friend’s introduction, and now their child is in kindergarten. Then there’s my colleague Xiao Zhang, who met her current boyfriend on a social app. Both of them are gaming enthusiasts, so they have a lot in common. So, don’t limit yourself to one circle; try different methods.
Lastly, whether you’re single or in a relationship, the most important thing is to love yourself. I have a friend who always says, “I dress up every day not to find a boyfriend, but to make myself happy.” This mindset is truly wonderful. Only by learning to love yourself first can you attract someone who truly appreciates you.
I saw a comment from a sister saying, “Falling in love feels so hard; I’m almost giving up.” Honestly, there’s no need to rush. Love can’t be forced. As another friend of mine said, “It’s better to wait than to settle.” Believe that every girl will meet the right person; it’s just a matter of time.
So, girls, relax a bit and enjoy your current life. What’s meant to come will come. The important thing is to learn to love yourself and live your best life during this process. After all, who doesn’t like a confident and radiant girl?